There are wives of military members. there are girlfriends, and then there is me. I'm a little different in that Evan and I are dual military. That means he's in the military and so am I. This means that while most couples are apart for 6 months due to deployment, we have the potential to be separated for years at a time.
People have told me, "I know it's hard when your husband is deployed," "I know how you feel," etc.
Truth is, you don't know. You don't know what it's like for us. You have never had your husband go away just shy of you two month wedding anniversary. Nor have you ever looked at the reality of not seeing your husband for another couple years. You haven't had to look at the unsureness of when you were going to have a family.
Just so you know, you don't know what it's like.